In the text entitled "Why an
arranged marriage 'is more likely to develop into lasting love'", the
author, Paul Bentley presents his argument that arranged marriages are actually
more likely to be successful marriages than marriages based on love (Bentley) . One if his main
points is that couples who are in an arranged marriage tend to work harder to
keep the marriage from falling apart, to keep it going (Bentley) .
Bentley assumes, based on vague references to unknown
research and studies, that this is because they have begun to fall in love, but
the real reason behind this is that they are forced to remain in the marriage,
and are not allowed to even consider divorce by those who forced them into it in
the first place. They may develop a decent relationship with each other, but
they will not necessarily fall in love. They tolerate each other, and the author
confounds love and tolerance in the text. Tolerance is merely being able to
stand someone's presence, love is enjoying someone's presence; there is a
difference.
However, I can understand the
author's side of the argument because arranged marriages sometimes do work if
they are based off of real consideration of how well two people work together (Bentley) . If the
parents/guardians thoroughly think through the potential for two people to be
compatible, then there is a possibility that this arranged marriage will end up
becoming a marriage based on love, as the author says (Bentley) .
All in all, the author seems to
wrongly assumes that arranged marriage is generally more likely to work.
However, the author does have a logical argument, because going through tough
situations does strengthen a relationship. However, it does not necessarily
create love, as he claims, and the majority of people in arranged marriages
remain unsatisfied and unfulfilled.
Works Cited
Bentley, Paul. Mail Online.
4 March 2011. 21 October 2015
<http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1363176/Why-arranged-marriage-likely-develop-lasting-love.html>.
Bentley, Paul. Mail Online.
4 March 2011. 21 October 2015
<http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1363176/Why-arranged-marriage-likely-develop-lasting-love.html>.
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